It has been almost a year since we received the news that Debbie had Lymphoma. We were quite shocked, and did not know what to expect as a result. She was to start Chemotherapy as soon as possible.
I never thought Debbie would make it through Chemo treatments. I don't know why. I guess I didn't think she was brave enough, or strong enough. I mean, nothing against my wonderful mother in law...but I seriously underestimated her.
As she went through the treatments for six months...I was surprised at her strength and courage. She dealt with the treatments very well, and was very brave.
As she went through more treatments early this year, it was evident that the pain was wearing her down a little. She still managed to impress me with her bravery.
Then, a month ago, when we got the news that more cancer was forming within her body, we were saddened, and could do nothing but hope for the best. She started a new, more intense chemotherapy, and it was definetly obvious that she was wearing down.
As we visited in early May, I saw how tired out Debbie was. She spoke of wanting the whole buisness to be over. The cancer was taking its toll. Poor Debbie was strong though, still...if not physically, then surly spiritually. She was very brave. She was not afraid to pass on. She wished the pain would go away, and was at peace with things in this life.
Then, last Friday, as we received the news that there would be no more chemotherapy, it was a time of sadness. Knowing that her cancer was winning the battle, and not her, was terrible news. We rushed to Halifax as soon as we could, to see her. Though the pain was almost completly absent, due to the morphine...we saw a very subdued and tired Debbie. But, she was brave, and at peace. She was happy, knowing that she would soon leave the pain that her treatments had left her with.
As we visited, expressed our love, and said our goodbyes...we did not know when we would see her again. We did not know if she would get to see Charlie or not. But we were blessed to spend that time with her.
We knew that her condition had been deteriorating all that week, but were not sure when she would pass away.
Last night, around 10:15PM, Ralph called to let us know our brave Debbie has passed away.
She leaves us having been much loved by so many. We intensely miss her. But we are happy that she is in a peaceful and restful place.
Her example of bravery is amazing. I wish I could express how deeply she will be missed. But how blessed we were to have her here. We will cherish all memories of her.
My mother in law was brave. She was loved. She was "my favorite mother in law".
